This Is Happening to Me
If you are experiencing domestic abuse, support is available.
The University of Wolverhampton recognises that domestic abuse can affect students and staff from all backgrounds and circumstances. Experiencing abuse can have a significant impact on your safety, wellbeing, confidence, studies, work and relationships.
You do not have to manage this alone.
Domestic abuse is never your fault.
Are You Safe?
Are you in immediate danger?
If you are in immediate danger, have been assaulted, threatened with violence, or fear for your safety:
Call 999
If you cannot speak safely, you can use the Silent Solution system by calling 999 and pressing 55 when prompted.
Do not wait for a report to be reviewed if urgent assistance is required.
Find a Safe Space
If possible, move to a place where you feel safe.
This may be:
- with a trusted friend or family member
- in a public place
- at work or university
- in temporary accommodation
- with a support service
If leaving immediately is not possible, consider who you could contact if the situation escalates.
Understanding Domestic Abuse
Domestic abuse is not limited to physical violence.
Abuse may involve:
Emotional or Psychological Abuse
- intimidation
- threats
- humiliation
- manipulation
- isolation from friends or family
- Repeated criticism or degradation
Coercive and Controlling Behaviour
- controlling where you go
- monitoring your phone or online activity
- controlling who you speak to
- making you afraid of the consequences of saying "no"
- controlling access to support
Physical Abuse
- hitting
- pushing
- grabbing
- punching
- kicking
- restraining
- threats of violence
Sexual Abuse
- unwanted sexual activity
- pressure or coercion into sexual activity
- sexual assault
- controlling reproductive choices
Economic Abuse
- controlling money
- restricting access to finances
- preventing employment or study
- creating financial dependence
If any of these behaviours sound familiar, support is available.
You Do Not Need to Have Made a Decision
Many people experiencing domestic abuse feel unsure about what they want to do next.
You may:
- want the abuse to stop
- want advice but not wish to report anything
- be considering leaving a relationship
- want support to stay safe
- be worried about children or other family members
- feel confused about what is happening
You do not need to have all the answers before seeking support.
Reporting a Concern
The University provides several ways to access support.
Report a Concern
You can submit a report with your contact details if you would like a member of the University's Safeguarding Team to contact you and discuss support options.
This can be done whether the abuse is happening now or happened in the past.
Anonymous Reporting
If you do not feel comfortable identifying yourself, you can submit an anonymous report.
Where available, anonymous two-way messaging may allow you to receive advice and guidance whilst remaining anonymous.
What Happens Next?
If you submit a report with your contact details, a trained member of staff will review the information provided.
Depending on your circumstances, this may include:
- safeguarding support
- safety planning
- wellbeing support
- practical advice
- signposting to specialist domestic abuse services
- support with understanding your options
- liaison with other services where appropriate and with your knowledge wherever possible
The University's priority is your safety and wellbeing.
Specialist Support
You do not need to face domestic abuse alone.
Specialist organisations can provide confidential advice, support and advocacy.
These include:
- Black Country Women's Aid
- Refuge
- Men's Advice Line
- Victim Support
- NHS services
Further information about these organisations can be found within this support section.
Looking After Yourself
Living with domestic abuse can be exhausting and overwhelming.
You may experience:
- anxiety
- fear
- low mood
- isolation
- difficulty concentrating
- sleep difficulties
- loss of confidence
- feelings of guilt or self-blame
These reactions are understandable.
Abuse is a choice made by the person causing harm. It is not your responsibility.
Remember
Domestic abuse can happen to anyone.
You deserve to feel safe, respected and supported.
Whether you want advice, practical support, safeguarding assistance or simply somebody to listen, help is available.
The University will take concerns seriously and work with you to identify the support that is right for you.